Since launching “Virtuous by Veronica” (VBV), I have received a ton of questions about who the virtuous woman is, and why she is a role model to me. I realized it when I made my first public appearance for Virtuous by Veronica at a women’s empowerment expo that so many people had never even heard of her. So let me tell you a little about the virtuous woman and why she’s the inspiration for not just my blog/boutique, but for the type of woman I strive to be.
To start, the virtuous woman is #LifeGoals. She is the a woman of the bible who can be found in Proverbs 31. She has amazing qualities and characteristics that can be hard to find in today’s woman. Although she’s a rare breed, her mindset is effective and she takes her direction from God so inevitably she’s successful. God used her as an example of how we should conduct ourselves as women, and everyday I’m praying that God will help me to master all of her qualities. Whether you’re single or in a relationship, there’s a lot that can be learned from the virtuous woman.
So lets talk about her. First, she’s a woman who can be trusted. She will do her husband good and not evil all the days of her life (Proverbs 31:12). Although the bible states that her “husband” can trust her, I think it’s important that we realize this quality should be applicable to any relationship we are apart of. Whether a friendship, business relationship or romantic relationship, it’s important for whomever we may choose to be involved with to know that they are dealing with someone who’s trustworthy, loyal, and interested in helping & not hurting them. No matter what I go through in life I make it a point to be the woman who’s intentions don’t have to be questioned. I refuse to be the bitter woman who uses hurt from the past to justify disloyal behavior in the present. I refuse to hurt simply because I’ve been hurt. The virtuous woman can be trusted indefinitely, and the scriptures make it clear by description of the different relationships she has with anyone in her life.
The Virtuous Woman is a hard worker, hustler and a smart investor (Proverbs 31:13-14, 16). She invests her money rather than spend it on frivolous objects & activities. She’s a business woman, but she makes sure to give to the poor and needy (Proverbs 31:20).
This woman is prepared for life meaning she stays ready so she never has to get ready. She’s up early daily making sure her home and/or projects are in order (Proverbs 31:15) which is evidence of her controlling her time, and not letting time control her. That is beyond admirable to me. I’ve always been an entrepreneur/business woman who takes pride in being self-sufficient (through God), but I have yet to master the art of waking early, and being truly prepared. I am a procrastinator who likes to sleep in until the last second, and justifies it by pretending I work better under pressure. That’s not how I was meant to operate and I’m slowly, but surely, getting better at budgeting my time.
The virtuous woman takes care of her physical appearance (Proverbs 31:22) but isn’t consumed by it. Despite popular belief, the Christian women is not to be associated with the unattractive woman. I used to think that by dressing to Gods standard I needed to throw away my love for fashion & pampering myself. But that couldn’t be further from the truth. He wants us to look & feel good. God wants us to be well kept. He is the creator of physical beauty, but he wants us to to be aware of what we focus on primarily to attract others. It should be our spirits over our sense of style that do the attracting. This topic of dress, modesty, & the truth on how we should present ourselves physically is something I battled with and will be discussed in more depth in a future post.
The next quality of the virtuous woman is one of my favorites. It’s about her taste in men. IF she chooses to marry, scripture tells us that her husband is powerful & well respected (Proverbs 31:23). So what does that tell us? He’s no “average Joe”. A man of God can never be an “average Joe” because he has a divine purpose over his life that he’s pursuing. What would make a man be respected and well known at the city gates as mentioned in scripture? His work ethic? His relationship with God? These are all things to think about, and this particular verse really makes me feel not so bad about people telling me I’m too picky/stuck-up when it comes to who I’ll entertain on a romantic level. I don’t want to be with an “average Joe” because I’m not an “average Jane”, and I know that when the time is right , I will have that well-respected and powerful man that God intended for the virtuous woman to have.
Strength & honor are her clothing and she smiles at the future (Proverbs 31:25). She’s an optimist who has positive thoughts of the future, and by wearing her strength as clothing, you can tell by looking at her that she’s a strong woman worthy of respect.
She’s wise and the law of her tongue is kindness (Proverbs 31:26). She’s the type of woman who thinks before she speaks/acts and will only speak if its with kindness. There is no power in being a mean girl & she knows this. I strive to be kind always, because this world can be a cold place and you really know what someone else is going through. I want to be that ray of sunshine to anyone I encounter and not a contributor to the darkness.
The virtuous woman exceeds all expectations and she is rewarded by the fruits of her own work (Proverbs 31:29, 31). She’s not the one to do the bare minimum to get by. She gives her all in all she does, and is a clear example of reaping what you sow.
Favor is deceitful and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the lord should be praised (Proverbs 31: 30). The virtuous woman is beautiful (we’re all beautiful as God Created us) & well put together, but her true value isn’t found in what’s on the outside. Its found in what she possesses on the inside of her heart and mind. What makes her truly praiseworthy is her dedication to love and keep God’s commandments.
“But who can find a virtuous woman? For her price is far above rubies” (Proverbs 31:10).
And that, my valued readers, is the virtuous woman. At least a summary of her. She is the type of woman I want to be. She is the woman I work at being everyday, and she is the inspiration behind VBV. I’m honored to have a platform to bring awareness to the type of woman God created us to be. She loves God, works hard, takes care of herself, her household, stays optimistic and so much more. She’s the superwoman of both biblical and modern times. The type of strength needed to pull off what she does daily is strength that can only be acquired by communicating with a higher power daily. This tells us something about her relationship with her creator. She’s in constant contact with him. She can do anything and everything and its all through God who strengthens her.
There’s so much to dig into when it comes to The Virtuous Woman. I definitely recommend reading Proverbs 31 in its entirety to get your own clear understanding of who she is. I recommend reading it over & over again, because I’ve noticed that the more I read it, the more revelation I get about this prime example of a woman. As I continue writing for Virtuous by Veronica I will share more specific experiences I’ve had/will have throughout my journey of being/staying a virtuous woman, and I hope that by witnessing my growth you will grow as well. And for those who had never heard of her, I hope this gives you an understanding of how she inspires me and VBV. Thanks for reading!
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